ESSENCE OF SELF-CONTROL, DISCIPLINE
As humans, we are ‘feeling beings.’ God created us with feelings. And this is why we perceive, observe and react to feelings. Our body chemistry is wired up with sensitive organs that respond to stimuli: the skin is sensitive to touch, the eye to sight, the ear to sound, the nose to smell and the tongue to taste. The cumulative consequences of these are that we respond to the feelings and these reactions form our behavioral pattern.
The preacher in recognition of the inordinate emotional tendencies that influence the behaviour of man whether positively or negatively but often in the extreme cases warns that “He that has no rule over his own spirit is like the city that is broken down and without walls.” – Proverbs 25:28. This stresses the essence of self-control and discipline in our emotional expression.
According to the inspiration of the Holy Ghost, this writing is desired to help you understand the intricacies of emotional expressions, its implications in the extreme cases and the application of wisdom in taming your emotional tendencies towards gaining self-control for divine enthronement.
Our body is covered up with skin and sensory system that respond to stimuli. The eye respond to sight, the nose to smell, the tongue to taste and the skin to touch. These sensitivities make us ‘feeling beings’. The cumulative influences of our perceptions and observations tame our feelings which consequently manifest in our behaviours.
We generally react to the things we hear, we taste, we smell and even the things we say. These emotional expressions have largely contributed to our exhibited behavioural patterns, and when they are in extreme, they have in no small measure influenced the direction our lives are heading to: hell or heaven, failure or success, shame or fame and such indexes. From my years of experience as a minister of the gospel of Christ, a husband to one wife, a father to both biological and spiritual children and a leader of the congregation of heavenly minded people, I have discovered that the feelings of a man have overall control over his body or his behaviour. The expression of sadness, happiness, anger, fear, envy, jealousy, zeal, enthusiasm etc are the results of our innate feelings. And humanly, we respond to these feelings one way or the other, positively or negatively, passionately or dispassionately depending on the conviction of our emotions.
For instance, the Bible recorded that Jesus wept when he came to the burial scene of Lazarus, his friend. His weeping is an obvious manifestation of his emotional state. It was an innate expression of the depth of his feelings. Certainly too, his weeping was spurred by what he perceived and observed.
He saw man helpless at the pranks of death and observed the faithfulness of man even in the present dispensation of grace and power. He knew that death was not originally designed for man, yet it has brought such volume of untold torment, anguish, frustration, setback and pain to mankind. Jesus was therefore overwhelmed by the helplessness of man whom God had made with dominion and power and wept at the ignorance and falling state of man. This is a result of feeling. And reacting positively, he gave thanks to the Father and occasioned the resurrection of Lazarus defeating death to show forth the manifestation of the eternal power, dominion and glory of God. Though Jesus wept, he was not overwhelmed and depressed by the pangs of death. He had control over his emotions.
In contrast, Cain, the eldest son of the first parents on earth, Adam and Eve saw the sacrificial offerings of his little brother Abel, and perceived the acceptance of God and felt jealous; his feelings deepened to envy and anger, the consequences of which resulted in the killing of his own brother – the first bloodshed in the history of mankind.
Uncontrolled inordinate emotional expressions have in many ways destroyed several persons – the rich and the poor, the famous and the common irrespective of race and religious background. We have all been victims of uncontrolled emotions at one circumstance or the other.
Many lives, opportunities or goals have been shattered at the sentimental cliff of uncontrolled emotions in the form of anger, envy, jealousy, fear, lust and what have you. Elisha out of anger cursed the children who mocked him and they were lost to hell. Samson for inordinate emotional tendencies lost the power of his glory in the laps of a deceptive woman, Delilah. He died in agony.
For fear of the spies sent by Moses came home with the evil report that they were like grasshoppers before the inhabitants of the promise land. For the same fear, the whole army of Isreal dwelled in the torment and torture not able to dare or challenge Goliath, the giant until the emergency of David, the one who was able control fear with boldness spurred by his faith in God.
This postulate confirms why the preacher in his ultimate book of wisdom warned that “he that has no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down and without walls.” – Proverbs 25:28. This portends in many details that we are responsible for our emotional manifestation whether positively or negatively.
More so, it suggests that we have the divine obligation to bring our emotions under control. This lesson is what we intend to explore in the eye opening writing. How to understand your emotions and gain absolute control of your spirit are series of lessons we want to explore in this episode. The series are thought provoking. The expositions are inspiring. And the lessons are profound.